@Moon@shitposter.club @kaia@shitposter.club have you tried just being ridiculously attractive
art: I despise most modern art and wish that impressionists would have finished their paintings. I'm a fan of Whistler and Sargent. I like neoclassical, art nouveau and art deco designs.
@kaia@shitposter.club @Moon@shitposter.club @syn@disqordia.space @sim@shitposter.club that's a lot of money that's not going in circles on a track
@kaia@shitposter.club @Moon@shitposter.club @syn@disqordia.space @sim@shitposter.club honestly what the fuck are people doing, getting this shit to get laid? you know how many hookers all that money buys?
@kaia@shitposter.club @Moon@shitposter.club @emilis@jigglypuff.club I has a kaia approved wrist watch?
(smaller of course and rosegold instead of gold because I like my pinks, but the aesthetic seems similiar, picture is from the beginning of last year)
@kaia@shitposter.club @Moon@shitposter.club @emilis@jigglypuff.club the best part is that wrist watch looks like 100 bucks minimum if not even more but it was only 50 bucks (which is still a lot of money but I could afford it back then due to my side jobs and I have since been loving and wearing the watch
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but it's blatantly just a ridiculous class signal and not something you should want to participate in at all
and... i don't know how exactly to put this. there is a clear through-line in what you're presenting, and it's not that you'd be right at home in like a 17th-century humanist academy, though you would. something about this collection of cultural signifiers feels like... an obsession with "harmony" in a very prescriptive and normative sense (cf. Whistler's "art for art's sake" nonsense, though i agree with that in letter, just not the ridiculous self-indulgent and affectively void performance that it was for him & his contemporaries). i could not construct a better list of works to convince me that someone is utterly uninteresting & without passion or human spirit. and i am as reactionary as anyone else when it comes to insincere postmodern modes that front spectacle before affective substance and sincere self-expression, but not identifying or finding impactful any non-representational or even *unconventionally representational* work, classifying it all together as "modern" is ignorant but more importantly just dreary.
not sure how coherent this is, i'm sorta a mess today. normally i wouldn't be this aggressively frustrated but something about trying to cultivate a "cultured" persona is intrinsically despicable to me. probably because my original sin, to the extent i have one in my subjective ontology, is hypernormalization & homogenization of modes of existence, and there is nothing more committed to homogenization than the classical humanist tradition.
to be Aristotelian, the final cause of a work of art is not making you seem interesting to others :)
then i inadvertently became more interesting and lost most of my class signifiers
turns out people are way more interested in me now because i'm not an insincere asshole
@kaia Not feeling a culturally simillar writing and art community with despite the instance I joined.
outside of "anime" and "racism" as broad topic for an instance, I've not yet seen a themed instance that actually flourishes
like, not you specifically, this is true for anyone. the world is *really* small these days and rapidly getting smaller. if you want to be a reactionary that's the right thing to freak out about, convergence of subjective/cultural ontologies to one incredibly simplified overlay mode.
@syn@disqordia.space @Moon@shitposter.club @emilis@jigglypuff.club @kaia@shitposter.club I personally think there is a big hurdle regarding style that you have to overcome in order to go from "trying to figure out what people perceive as good looking" to "your personal style with which you feel stylish and comfortable and actually as if you were expressing your personality"
I love it when fashion is fun and you learned to feel comfortable with it so you can stand out with it without feeling self-conscious when people start noticing you and looking at you!
I developed my current style over the last 3 years with serious dedication and right now I am so happy with it, I get compliments for my style regularly since half a year and I feel like myself and also noticed how much easier it comes to me now to live out my extroversion since people are expecting it now from me so they're not getting shocked by it
but it IS a lot of time I put into it
@syn@disqordia.space @kaia@shitposter.club @Moon@shitposter.club @emilis@jigglypuff.club yeah that's what I was trying to say. It's really nice if you can use it for self-expression and fun, buuut there is just this too large part that is insecurities and feeling like you would be wearing a costume, a facade, that is the hurdle I mentioned, that you actually can only overcome if you're really passionate about it
It is definitely not a requirement for social life and intimate partners, that's not what I was saying, I wanted to refer to what you were saying about putting up a persona facade that feels contrived. Fashion is extremely gate-keepy and judging and it's not okay that it's required to put in so much effort in order to feel good about your presentation
in that case, if you don't really care about fashion, it's actually best to just keep it low instead of going through the "feeling like a contrived persona" phase to be able to achieve the cool, comfy and fun part beyond that
sorry that I didn't phrase my post good enough uwu
and I thought we were talking about attracting girls via the subconscious, the monkey-brain
wearing nice clothes and accessories does not need to have an ontological foundation. it's simply a 'tell', whether conscious or unconscious. what you are wearing is influencing how you are perceived, how you act in turn as reaction of how you are perceived. it's performative. it influences your perceived hierarchical status both for others and yourself.@shibao@misskey.bubbletea.dev @kaia@shitposter.club @likho@writing.exchange Lmao sort of, just not on fedi 😔
im not a big fan of IRL pics or video talks or so but i feel like im missing something
@lain user-specific unchangeable jingle whenever a post shows up on timeline when?